Lose weight. Learn English. Run every morning. Every time when we want to complete any deal, we habitually share our plans with our friends, parents and colleagues. We tell them that we want to accomplish this or that. Sometimes happily acknowledge them, that we have already started something. Then, most of the time, it happens that what we have planned to do did not turn to reality. Why should not we inform anybody about our plans in advance? And why the plans that we did not tell anybody often tend to be achieved?
In the video above an American entrepreneur Derek Sivers shared his view about keeping secret about the goals. The main argument that he proposed is when people tell anybody about their intensions, they are likely to fail.
The speaker supports his view from the psychological perspectives. Whenever the person shares about his plans with people, he states that “their congratulations and their high image of” the person, make people feel that they are already one step closer to accomplishing the plans. However, these sorts of psychological impact of the surrounding can lead to artificial self-satisfaction. As a result, the plans remain as the plans that are suppressed with the imagination of the person as though the plans “are becoming the part of the [person’s] identity”. In the psychology, this process is called as “social reality”. Therefore, in order to make the goals and plans doable, David suggested keeping the goals only to you.
In order to make his claim more evidentially-based, he stated that this “social reality” became the interest of many researchers. He shared with the results of the research conducted in 2009 by Peter Golwitzer in which the half of the participants shared with the other people about their plans they are going to do, whether others did not tell anything. They were all given 45 minutes to accomplish their plans. When the time ends, the participants who kept their mouth shut, entire 45 minutes devoted to work and said that they need to had a long way to achieve the goal. The other half quieted the experiment in 33 minutes by stating that they have almost close to the goal achievement. Indeed, it was the case when their minds “mistakes talking for doing”. However, I deem the results of one research are insufficient to make this theory truly convincing one. More experiment results is necessary to make the theory more thought-provoking.
Personally, I strongly support this misconception of our mind when we talk about our plans. In fact, when I began to announce all my plans to everybody, these plans tend to fail. I do not know, does it have any coincidence or not with the keeping plans secret, but mostly it happens with me.
By the way, do you have the same situation as me? Do you believe that announcement of your plans and goal hinders them to come true?